Sometimes (all times), fellas like to start a courtship by having lots of sex and then saying, "I'm not really interested in a relationship right now" or something to that effect. Sometimes (all times), ladies react to this by thinking, "I just got used like a hooker. An upaid hooker. He only wants me for sex. I'm worthless. I hate myself." etc.
Here's what though, Readers. There are a few things to keep in mind in this situation (if you're on the receiving end of the "I don't want to be a booooyyyyfriend right now" comment).
First, this is completely standard operating procedure for most dudes. It really has very little to do with you. It's sort of like having someone sign a contract before starting a business relationship. It covers their ass. This way, if they decide they're not into you, they can be all, "But I TOOLLLLD you..." and if they decide they are into you, they can say, "Wow, you've really changed me 'cause you're so fucking special, babe." Okay, so keep that shit in mind. It's not personal, it's just business.
Now, this kind of behavior can mean several things, but here are the two most common:
Option A:
They really do just want to fuck you and have no attachments, obligations or emotional baggage that comes along with fucking you.
Option B:
They actually are being super reasonable and don't want to jump into anything right this second because they don't know from your crazy ass. I mean, you pretty much just met! Just because you're a crazy lady and tend towards the "I LOVE YOU IS THAT OKAY TO SAY YET?" end of the spectrum, doesn't meant that's actually the most healthy approach. He might just be thinking, Let's get to know each other first and see if we work well together. Then we can organically let this relationship evolve from there if it seems right. I know that seems awfully lucid and healthy for a lot of guys, but some of them actually are smart, Readers, and god knows they have more patience than you (read; me).
They could also be a little of both. Or neither.
How in the fuck would I know? Seriously.
Here's what though, Readers. There are a few things to keep in mind in this situation (if you're on the receiving end of the "I don't want to be a booooyyyyfriend right now" comment).
First, this is completely standard operating procedure for most dudes. It really has very little to do with you. It's sort of like having someone sign a contract before starting a business relationship. It covers their ass. This way, if they decide they're not into you, they can be all, "But I TOOLLLLD you..." and if they decide they are into you, they can say, "Wow, you've really changed me 'cause you're so fucking special, babe." Okay, so keep that shit in mind. It's not personal, it's just business.
Now, this kind of behavior can mean several things, but here are the two most common:
Option A:
They really do just want to fuck you and have no attachments, obligations or emotional baggage that comes along with fucking you.
Option B:
They actually are being super reasonable and don't want to jump into anything right this second because they don't know from your crazy ass. I mean, you pretty much just met! Just because you're a crazy lady and tend towards the "I LOVE YOU IS THAT OKAY TO SAY YET?" end of the spectrum, doesn't meant that's actually the most healthy approach. He might just be thinking, Let's get to know each other first and see if we work well together. Then we can organically let this relationship evolve from there if it seems right. I know that seems awfully lucid and healthy for a lot of guys, but some of them actually are smart, Readers, and god knows they have more patience than you (read; me).
They could also be a little of both. Or neither.
How in the fuck would I know? Seriously.
Posted by Havilah
